February 28, 2017 | by Haven Staff
If all warning signs came with gigantic flashing lights, they might be more effective. The thing about warning signs is that we often don’t recognize them at the time when we most need them. With something like addiction that takes some time to develop, we may be already steps down the path before we realize we’re even on it.
For a variety of reasons, people may start to wonder about their alcohol consumption or other potentially addictive behaviors. Usually regrets and recriminations fuel this question. Those may provide an opportunity to take stock.
The warning signs below are a starting point for exploration. They may seem familiar or even somewhat benign or insignificant. However, if these behaviors become more common and routine over the course of a period of time, they warrant further attention.
This list below is by no means exhaustive. Furthermore, though geared toward alcohol consumption, these warning signs can be amended for other addictive substances and behaviors:
This can take various forms. You might find yourself wanting to spend more time with people who like to drink rather than friends who don’t drink. You might also find yourself wanting to stay home alone drinking instead of going out with friends. Staying at home may provide the justification for more drinking because you don’t have to worry about drinking and driving.
College students call this “pre-gaming.” The idea is to get a head start as a way to loosen up or even save money. You may tell yourself that a bottle of wine only costs $10.00, which is cheaper than buying two drinks at $8.00 each. While you might intend to have only one drink out, you may have that second.
You might not count the drinks you had before you went out because that was hours ago or you had eaten since then and countered the effects of alcohol. When you start creating a formula to figure out how much you are drinking or to get the answer/number you want, that is something to take seriously.
Alcoholic drinks are not all created equal when it comes to alcohol content. You may decide that wine, for example, isn’t a real drink like vodka. You may tell yourself only the “real drinks” count. You may decide to give up the hard "real" liquor and replace with the lighter stuff. But if you increase your consumption of that lighter stuff, the results may be the same.
If you live in a state with laws prohibiting the sales of alcohol on Sunday, Saturday night may be a source of concern for you. If the weather is bad, you might tell yourself to buy some extra “just in case.” You may also decide to finish the open bottle because you’ll be buying more and so you might as well get this bottle out of the way.
You may even think to yourself, “who knew that was an option?!” You may also be surprised when someone doesn’t finish “a perfectly good drink,” because that is a waste of good alcohol.
You may find yourself wishing other people would hurry up and finish their drinks so that you can get another. No one wants to stand out by obviously and overtly drinking more than others. Ordering “another round” or filling the other’s wine glass gives the appearance that people are socially drinking the same amounts in the same way. You can hide in plain sight. You might also get annoyed when friends “have had enough” and want to go home before you think you’ve had enough.
While it is true a photo captures only a particular moment, enough of those particular moments can be deeply revealing. You may start to notice you look more intoxicated than the others or that you all look rather intoxicated. You may notice that your face and the rest of your body looks different from how you think it looks or how you remember it looks.
Bottles tend to rattle around and make what seems an enormous amount of noise that would out you to your family or neighbors. As a result, you may hide bottles and dispose of them after the bins are out for pick up. You may dispose of them at the gas station, in a neighbor’s bin or wherever there is an unlocked dumpster not under surveillance.
It may be someone with whom you used to drink. It may be a total stranger. You may start to hear your drinking patterns in their stories. You may also see that they drank for similar reasons or for very different ones. They may suffer consequences similar to yours or they may have suffered much worse. But you see that they are living a life in recovery that is making them happy. You start to want that for yourself.