• Residential Treatment

    Residential Treatment

    With access to an alcohol and drug-free living environment - successful recovery is possible.
    Individuals trying to abstain are more successful in a residential treatment setting.
    With access to an alcohol and drug-free living environment - successful recovery is possible. Individuals trying to abstain are more successful in a residential treatment setting.

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  • Activities for Fun

    Activities for Fun

    A common misconception between addicts is that "My life will be over when I quit!"
    The Haven opens possibilities by teaching individuals how to have fun sober.
    A common misconception between addicts is that "My life will be over when I quit!"
    The Haven opens possibilities by teaching individuals how to have fun sober.
  • Build Healthy Relationships

    Build Healthy Relationships

    A key component to long term sobriety is healthy relationships.
    The Haven facilitates building relationships based on boundaries and helping others who are in need.
    A key component to long term sobriety is healthy relationships.
    The Haven facilitates building relationships based on boundaries and helping others who are in need.
  • Lake Powell

    Lake Powell

    Each year The Haven takes Alumni, Residents and others in the community to
    Lake Powell all of whom share a common goal to stay sober.
    Each year The Haven takes Alumni, Residents and others in the community to
    Lake Powell all of whom share a common goal to stay sober.

Get Your Life Back

The Haven offers both residential treatment and sober living programs for men and women struggling with addiction to drugs and alcohol. All of The Haven's facilities are conveniently located near downtown Salt Lake City, within walking distance of UTA TRAX and the University of Utah. Individuals needing help to stay sober find extra support with The Haven's Sober Living Program. While residents work on the skills needed to live alcohol and drug-free, The Haven Alumni show residents that life without drugs and alcohol can be fun and exciting. The Haven has been has been a leader in treating substance misuse disorders in Utah since 1969. Recovery from alcohol and substance abuse is possible.

Learning to Live From the Inside Out

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The term dependence can be a confusing one, as it’s typically used within the context of substance dependence or codependence. Although it’s somewhat similar in the way it manifests, the kind of dependence I’m talking about isn’t necessarily either of those things, therefore, I tend to refer to it instead as outside-in-living.

Living from the outside in is exactly what it sounds like: what occurs outside dictates what happens inside. This can take many forms: having your entire day ruined any time something inconvenient or unfavorable happens; feeling bored, or totally lost, unless you’re stimulated or entertained; having your emotions completely dictated by your relationships; or lacking any sense of who you are or what you want. No matter how it shows up, outside-in living is uncomfortable, at best, and excruciating at worst. But, of course, it isn’t the only way to live.

As social creatures, we’re naturally influenced by our relationships, and our nature compels us to take cues from the outside world in order to effectively navigate our lives. But this doesn’t mean we have to relinquish control. It’s possible to gain command over our own internal experience by beginning to live from the inside out. This is a lifetime’s work, and something we shouldn’t expect ourselves to perfect; but a few simple practices can begin to reverse the course, helping us generate a sense of centered clarity and emotional independence.

Develop a Mindfulness Practice. This is a foundational first step that will support any other steps you take in the direction of developing an inside-out approach to life. Mindfulness, in essence, is the practice of intentionally paying attention to your in-the-moment experience, with a spirit of acceptance and non-judgment. The more attention you place on your internal world and everything that unfolds within it from moment to moment, the more you'll learn about who you are and what you want. A dedicated mindfulness practice can also support you in managing yourself and determining your internal state. As things come at you from the outside, you’ll be able to check in with yourself, notice what you’re experiencing, and masterfully respond accordingly. If you’re new to mindfulness, pick up a simple guide (like this one, or this one) to learn the basics and begin your personal practice:    

Check Your Filter — Everything that happens in your life is essentially neutral: it’s a series of events that unfolds, without much inherent meaning apart from what you ascribe to it. In essence, it’s your assessment and interpretation of what happens that determines the way you experience it. Your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and past experiences collectively constitute a sort of filter, through which all of your experiences flow. While it’s easy to get caught up in the outside stuff, blaming circumstances or other people for the way you feel, it’s possible to take more responsibility and command over your life by turning your focus inward instead. Checking your filter regularly, by tuning in to the story you’re telling yourself about what’s happening—and the corresponding feelings it’s producing within you—is a useful and important way to start living from the inside-out.

Practice Responding Rather Than Reacting — Once you’ve gotten in the habit of turning inward and tuning in to your inner experience, you can begin to respond to the outside world in different, perhaps more empowering ways. An important practice to keep in mind is that of responding rather than reacting. This means intentionally creating a gap between what happens and what you do about it. Reacting occurs instinctively and automatically; when we’re reactive, we allow ourselves to become enslaved by our circumstances, thus engaging unconsciously in the outside-in dynamic. Responding, on the other hand, involves giving ourselves some space and time to let in what’s happened and mindfully consider the best course of action to take. The more you practice responding rather than reacting, the more capable you’ll become of staying in the driver’s seat of your life.

Seek Serenity — The oft-repeated Serenity Prayer, known well by those in Alcoholics Anonymous and other recovery groups, is an invocation to know the difference between what can be controlled and what cannot. It’s about living intentionally, with an ongoing awareness of when it’s time to take action and when it’s time to surrender. It’s been my experience as a clinician that people who invite the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer into their lives on a regular basis are able to feel more in command of their experience, less easily tossed around by the waves of their lives. Seeking the wisdom to know the difference between what is and isn’t within your control can be an empowering practice, one that allows you to more serenely surf those waves, instead of being at their mercy.

Inside-out living doesn’t operate according to a one-size-fits-all model. It isn’t a prescription for a problem-free life, and it isn’t a way to eliminate all dependence on the outside world. Instead, it’s an invitation to access a clearer, more centered sense of command over your life, one that’s likely to bring about more peace and more possibilities.   

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